Every now and then, getting angry is only natural. In fact, it can be good for you. However, if you find yourself frequently getting worked up into a rage, or lashing out inappropriately, then it might be time to pick up some anger management strategies to help you work through your emotions.
Don’t react straight away
We all say and do things we don’t mean in the heat of the moment only to regret it later. The trouble with this is not only that you end up having to apologise to everyone about your behaviour. But also, if your emotions come pouring out like some sort of verbal diarrhoea, you’re often not communicating exactly what the problem is effectively anyway so nothing gets resolved.
Take a short time away to process what’s making you angry. And get the thoughts and feelings you want to express straight in your own head before you sit down to talk it through calmly.
Exercise releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don’t get unnecessarily stressed or worked up about the small things.
Even something as simple as going for a walk can be helpful in busting stress and working aggression out of your system. It also serves as time away from distractions to properly think over the situation before reacting.
Write it down
Writing can be an excellent form of therapy. Getting all of your negative emotions down on paper means that it’s not festering inside you, building up to a huge explosion of rage. It also helps you to think through your emotions and rationalise situations. Evaluate whether your response was appropriate.
And if you keep your scribbles you can look back over them and pick out any patterns leading up to you losing your temper. That way you can try and anticipate a situation before it turns ugly in the future.
Try to think of solutions
If there is a specific issue that’s troubling you. Instead of getting mad. Try to take a breath and think about ways you can solve the problem at hand.
Take positive action to change your circumstances, rather than lashing out. Not only will you be managing your anger better, but you will be bettering your life and reducing stress.
Learn to forgive
Holding a grudge only hurts the person holding it. This is probably the most difficult of all 5 to do. But if you can learn to let go of any ill feeling you have towards an individual or group of people that have angered you in the past, you will be doing your mental health a lot of good.
It takes up energy and makes you stressed to carry around anger. You don’t need to forget what happened, just forgive.
Anger management can be tough. You’re fighting your natural impulses. But just remember that by dealing with emotion appropriately you’ll be doing your mental and physical health good, and strengthening your reputation and relationships with others.